2020年8月19日 星期三

The T List: Five things we recommend this week

A Oaxacan resort, fine jewelry inspired by crudités — and more.

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An Elemental Retreat on the Wild Oaxacan Coast

Left: one of Monte Uzulu’s 11 suites. Right: an elemental concrete tub in a ground-floor suite.Elke Frotscher

By Michaela Trimble

T Contributor

For over 20 years, the Mexican creative director Alan V. Favero has vacationed on the Oaxacan coast. Eventually, he purchased his own land in the fishing village of San Agustinillo so that he could build Monte Uzulu. An hour south of Puerto Escondido and perched atop a lush hill with views of the Pacific Ocean, the minimalist resort was conceptualized by architect Mariana Ruiz in collaboration with lighting designer Paola Jose of the creative studio Sombra and Favero’s interior and industrial design firm, Taller Lu’um, which routinely collaborates with more than 15 different artisan groups across Mexico to preserve centuries-old techniques. Built with an eye to maintaining the natural balance of the local ecosystem, the 11 bohemian suites offer sun-drenched terraces and feature sustainable macuilí wood furniture carved by local carpenters, straw lamps and handmade basketwork made in Michoacán, along with cobalt cotton textiles woven in nearby Teotitlán del Valle. After a weeklong residency at the property, mother-son duo Karen Drijanski and Eduardo Plaschinski (of Niddo, Mexico City’s most revered cafe) inspired the menu at the property’s restaurant, Temporada, which is made up of dishes that highlight the flavors of Oaxaca’s generous bounty. Rooms start at $128, monteuzulu.com

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Rosie Assoulin’s New Raw Wine, Vivanterre

From left: Vivanterre Contact SGU ($30) and Vivanterre Gamay MVB ($35).Courtesy of Nicole Cohen

By Thessaly La Force

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A couple of years ago, the New York-based fashion designer Rosie Assoulin got bitten by the orange wine bug. “I became obsessive and would look for it everywhere,” she recalled. She told her husband and business partner, Max — the duo work not only on Assoulin’s popular namesake brand but also their latest clothing line, By Any Other Name — that they were going to make their own orange wine one day. “He ignored me,” she added with a laugh. Skip ahead to around this time last year, and the pair were in the Auvergne region of France, examining the grape harvest. This week, they are launching Vivanterre with two debut vintages: a Gamay and an orange wine. They worked with natural winemakers Patrick Bouju and Justine Loiseau, as well as Cedric Nicaise (the wine director of Eleven Madison Park) to refine the taste. And they asked Omar Sosa of Apartamento magazine to design the labels, which evoke the sun as well as the terroir and the crunchy wax seals of older wines. For the Assoulins, making their own organic vintages makes perfect sense in this moment. “We want to connect with other human beings — we’re aware of meals and family time, and what sharing a bottle of wine means to us,” said Assoulin, who noted that Vivanterre translates to “living earth” in French. “Almost everyone has, in some way, a potager (kitchen garden), even if it’s just scallions growing in a Mason jar on a windowsill. We’re all reckoning with nature, and it’s something we need to make the center of our conversations.” From $30, vivanterre.com.

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Leather Unisex Sandals Built for Comfort and Style

Left: the Emme Parsons Bari sandal in black. Right, from top: the Bari sandal in tan suede and tobacco and the Simone sandal in black.Left: Charlie Ann Max. Right: Dimitri Newman

By Jameson Montgomery

Gender inclusivity in fashion has made great strides, but footwear always seems to be one step behind. Rarely does a shoe come in a full-size range for all potential customers. Enter Emme Parsons, whose Los Angeles-based, eponymous footwear line is already admirable for its elegant craftsmanship and commitment to sustainability. Parsons recently revisited two of her best-selling styles, the Bari and the Simone — both names are of Italian origin (where Parsons’s production takes place) and have historically been gender nonspecific — updating them with thicker straps and a welted leather fussbett (“footbed” in German), a 19th-century innovation that replaces the shoe’s flat insole with a form-fitting alternative. Fussbetts are quite comfortable and healthier for feet in motion. What’s more, when Parsons learned she could produce both the Bari and Simone in sizes up to IT46, she knew it was a perfect opportunity to offer her well-designed staples to the men and women whom her current shoes didn’t fit. “Our customers are drawn to styles that are comfort-focused and easy to slip on and off but still feel refined and elevated,” she said. As a cross-department shopper myself, it’s a relief to know my days of longing for a testosterone-free sandal are over. emmeparsons.com.

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4 Restoring Lip Balms for the End of Summer

Clockwise from left: Supergoop’s Play Lip Balm, $10, supergoop.com; Victoria Beckham Beauty’s Bitten Lip Tint in Chérie, $36, victoriabeckhambeauty.com; Neova SmartSkincare’ Cu3 Lip Repair with Copper Peptide Complex, $26, neova.com; Iris & Romeo Power Peptide Lip Balm in Berry, $26, irisandromeo.com.Courtesy of the brands

By Caitie Kelly

Though now often hidden under masks, lips still need special attention — especially in the summer, when sun and saltwater take a toll. A good place to start is with a versatile moisturizing balm like Supergoop’s Play Lip Balm, which has SPF 30 and comes in a clear formula ideal for layering over lip shades. Victoria Beckham Beauty’s Bitten Lip Tint has a light but supple gel formula containing squalane and sodium hyaluronate, which sinks in (meaning no transfer onto masks) for a rosy flush. An intense hydrating wash of color can be found in the San Francisco Bay Area-based brand Iris & Romeo’s Power Peptide Lip Balm. Rich in biomimetic peptides that stimulate collagen production, the balm also gives lips a more voluminous appearance. For lips that may already be burned or severely dried from the elements, Neova SmartSkincare, a brand dedicated to healing and preventing photoaged skin, developed Cu3 Lip Repair, to be used post-procedure or sun exposure. A thick layer worn at night seals in moisture and will leave overexposed lips looking remarkably better by morning.

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Fine Jewelry Charms Inspired by Finger Foods

Left: Mociun’s charms in a room inspired by Ricardo Bofill’s Cement Factory, with handmade micro-size décor, including a porcelain cat by the ceramist Eleonor Boström and a wooden bar cart made by Tammer Hijazi of Bower Studios. Right: charms include a yellow gold clam casino, rose gold shrimps, green gold avocado, green gold snap peas, yellow gold carrots with pavé set orange sapphires and green gold asparagus with green diamonds.Left: Nicholas Calcott. Right: Mociun

By Thessaly La Force

The Williamsburg-based fine jeweler Caitlin Mociun has built a loyal customer base for her Bauhaus-inspired designs with Victorian touches (think turquoise, diamonds and yellow gold for an engagement ring, and antique glass intaglio seals for a necklace) made entirely with ethically sourced or vintage gemstones. Not too long ago — inspired by great jewelry designers such as JAR and Hemmerle — Mociun began creating limited-edition charms made to resemble miniature versions of her favorite foods. Previous iterations included New York street food (on offer were diamond doughnuts, golden hot dogs and slices of pizza) and pool party fare (gold fried chicken and pearl-and-diamond encrusted shucked oysters). The latest menu options in what Mociun playfully calls her Fine Foods Collection are all crudités and finger foods: dainty diamond-coated carrots and radishes, avocados with tiger’s-eye as the pit (the stone fruit consists of two charms, so you can gift one half to a friend or loved one), as well as olives made from olivine, grapes made from grape garnet and diamond-studded pink shrimps (in rose gold, obviously, to approximate the look of the cooked shellfish). Each charm (only 82 were made in total) comes with a slender book of matching cocktails designed by the photographer and mixologist Vivian Cromwell. “I wanted the charms to be really pretty, to be a proper nod to the food they’re referencing,” said Mociun, who added that she is always hoping to delight women who are buying jewelry for themselves. mociun.com.

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#TProcess: Pierre Davis

The Los Angeles-based fashion designer Pierre Davis hand-embroiders a T-shirt from No Sesso’s spring 2020 collection.Scott J. Ross

The designer Pierre Davis’s intention to create a brand for everyone — “all identities, shapes, ages and colors” — can be seen in No Sesso’s clothing, each piece of which is a declaration of creativity, joy and, perhaps most notable, freedom. She often works with recycled fabric, taking apart hard-loved thrift-store finds and putting them back together according to her own vision, and perhaps the upcycled pieces’ raw hems and exposed seams are a testament to reinvention itself, just as patchwork — a recurring motif throughout Davis’s collections — might be a metaphor for the fact that we are all complex beings composed of myriad experiences and desires. In the video, a still from which is displayed here, the designer recreates a hand-embroidered T-shirt from No Sesso’s spring 2020 collection. Go to #TPresents or #TProcess to see more — and follow us on Instagram.

Correction: Last week’s newsletter misspelled the surname of Fotofolio’s co-founder. She is Juliette Galant.

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What It Means to Home-School

Portraits of families who opted-out of — or had to leave — traditional education.

What It Means to Home-School

In December of last year, the parenting team decided that we wanted to do a series of articles about home-schoolers. We wanted to take a closer look at this diverse, passionate and growing movement.

Then the pandemic hit. Though distance learning isn’t the same as home-schooling, coronavirus-related school closures made millions of parents much more deeply acquainted with learning outside the confines of a classroom. And our look at families who educate their children at home felt even more urgent.

Andrea Dennison, Ph.D., an assistant professor of school psychology at Texas State University who has studied why some parents choose to home-school, said that these families are motivated by a desire for control over their children’s education that probably seems very appealing in this moment; rather than waiting to hear about whether your kid’s school will be in-person, and fretting about the curriculum, you could take matters into your own hands. “Reclaiming that autonomy, that decision-making ability for your child and their needs, is at the forefront of every parent’s mind right now,” she said.

Let’s first define our terms. The National Center for Education Statistics, or N.C.E.S., calls students “home-schooled” if they are in a traditional school setting less than 25 hours a week, if they are not being home-schooled because of a temporary illness or if their parents say they are home-schooled.

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Using that definition, the percentage of home-schooled children in the grades equivalent to kindergarten though 12th grade increased modestly over the past couple of decades: to 3.3 percent, or 1.7 million students, in 2016 from 1.7 percent, or 850,000 students, in 1999, per the latest data from the N.C.E.S.

According to the survey, in 2016 the top three reasons parents chose to home-school were concerns about the school environment (whether because of negative peer interactions, drugs or general safety), a dissatisfaction with academics at their schools, and a desire to provide religious instruction. Even though the N.C.E.S. did not ask its questions exactly the same way between 1999 to 2016 to allow for a clean comparison, said Sarah Grady, the study director of the National Household Education Surveys Program, parents’ reasons for home-schooling have remained fairly consistent since the ’90s.

Those findings jibe with the motivations cited by the families we profiled. Some like home-schooling because they were unhappy with mainstream school options they felt were culturally insensitive and even demeaning. Others felt their children were better served by “unschooling,” a method that encourages kids to learn through experience and exposure, rather than through traditional lessons. Yet others were deeply religious, and wanted to keep their children protected from the influences of the wider world for as long as they could. Read all their stories here.

We also have a fascinating piece by Lyz Lenz, a writer who was home-schooled with her seven siblings as a child. She interviewed five of her brothers and sisters, along with her parents, about how they feel, decades later, about having been home-schooled. And we also write about the volunteers who are making sure that migrant children stuck at the border between the United States and Mexico get a quality education in difficult circumstances.

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The majority of the families we featured chose to home-school before the coronavirus pandemic. Considering the seismic effects the virus has had on education, we also wanted to know: Are more families interested in taking their children out of traditional schools this fall and beyond?

Feelings around distance learning in the spring were decidedly mixed, and two-thirds of U.S. parents with kids in elementary, middle or high school were concerned about their children falling behind when schools were closed in April, according to the Pew Research Center. It’s worth noting that the pandemic has affected many home-schooling families, too — they were cut off from the educational trips and local home-schooling communities they may rely on for socializing. Many are also are dealing with financial and health concerns, as well.

So we partnered with Morning Consult, a data intelligence and market research company, to survey 1,075 parents from across the United States. In open-ended responses, several families who didn’t home-school before the pandemic were surprised to find that, post-shutdown, their children seemed to do better outside a traditional school environment.

Many cited unchecked bullying and special needs that were not supported appropriately as reasons for why their kids are happier learning at home. Others felt their children enjoyed academics more outside a traditional setting. One mother said that in a regular classroom her son was bored, and, as a result, he became disruptive. “He’s really blossomed with home-schooling!”

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It’s far too soon to know whether the desire to home-school will remain in these parents after the threat of a deadly virus no longer looms. (As one survey respondent lyrically put it, “There is absolutely no way I will be sending my children into the caldron of germs.”) It’s worth noting that the parents who have been able to home-school tend to be two-parent families who can survive on one income. It’s very difficult to educate young children and also work from home; it’s nearly impossible to do it if your paid work involves leaving the house.

Still, even for parents like me, who will kiss the stone steps of our public elementary school when it’s safe for my children to return, the pandemic has made us think more intentionally about the kind of school experience we want for our kids. As Dr. Dennison, the school psychologist who studies home-schoolers, explained it, “I think this moment is an invitation for adults to think deeply about what they desire, truly, for their children in the future, and to ask critical questions that will lead them perhaps to some unexpected answers.”

Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let’s celebrate the tiny victories.

After a particularly hard home-school day, when my daughter complained she didn’t want to home-school anymore, I decided to think about the most fun days at school and start doing those — we have invented a daily theme, e.g., crazy hair day, mismatched sock day, wear something blue. We keep a calendar in the kitchen for the month. It gave us all something to look forward to for the next day. — Misty Bennett, Mount Pleasant, MI

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