2020年9月26日 星期六

American Parents Need a Year-Long Nap

Burnout is real and exhausting.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
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I think I broke a personal record yesterday when I found myself wanting a nap at 10:27 a.m. I was surprised to feel so exhausted on a morning when I had decent sleep the night before. More than six months into the coronavirus pandemic, I thought my mind and body had gotten used to the additional energy required to deal with … all of this.

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Then I read Anne Helen Petersen’s article titled “How Burnout Became the Norm for American Parents,” which includes this passage: “You’re still managing the mental load of the household, while also making sure the masks are laundered, the Zoom schedules are followed, and trying to figure out how much kid screen time is too much and how much screen time is necessary to just get through your day.” I feel tired just reading that description. Anne’s piece affirms what many of us knew in our bones, even before the health crisis: Being a “perfect” parent is an impossible and completely goofy goal, and we need to figure out a new way of being that doesn’t suck the life out of ourselves and our kids.

On the coronavirus front, Melinda Wenner Moyer cautions that even in small family gatherings, you still need to be careful about getting sick. And Carl Zimmer updates us on the progress (or lack thereof) on a vaccine for children.

Also new this week, we have a sobering piece by Emma Marris on the extremely rare pediatric condition acute flaccid myelitis, or A.F.M., that doctors fear may re-emerge this fall. It’s not something you should worry about day to day, but if you see any signs — your child is unusually floppy or clumsy after a respiratory virus — seek medical help immediately.

And we have a new entry in a series by Liza Gross about common household toxins to watch out for; this one is about exposure to PFAS, a chemical that can alter the thyroid function of moms and babies.

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To leave you on a happier note, we have two pieces that are full of wonder and delight. First, we have a darling essay from Megan Margulies about why kids need superheroes now more than ever. “If Captain America can defeat the Red Skull, a child can conquer her anxiety of a Zoom class,” Megan notes. And second, our own staff editor Erik Vance has a fun psychological test you can give to your kids if they’re under 7. It’s a fascinating look into the way their little minds develop, and it’s also a good way to kill some time.

Thanks for reading!

— Jessica Grose, lead editor, NYT Parenting

THIS WEEK IN NYT PARENTING

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Kids Need Superheroes Now More Than Ever

If Captain America can defeat the Red Skull, a child can conquer her anxiety of a Zoom class.

By Megan Margulies

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A Covid-19 Vaccine for Children May Not Arrive Before Fall 2021

While scientists are rushing to develop an immunization for adults, no one has started the process yet for children.

By Carl Zimmer

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Igor Bastidas

The Brain Test You Want Your Kid to Fail

The Conservation Test

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These Everyday Toxins May Be Hurting Pregnant Women and Their Babies

PFAS, industrial chemicals used to waterproof jackets and grease-proof fast-food containers, may disrupt pregnancy with lasting effects.

By Liza Gross

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Wesley Allsbrook

How Burnout Became the Norm for American Parents

Overwhelmed and overworked parents are on the brink. They need to cut themselves some slack.

By Anne Helen Petersen

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Sarah Mazzetti

‘Just a Small Play Date’? You Still Need to Be Careful

Experts warn that seemingly harmless interactions with close family and friends may be driving the spread of Covid.

By Melinda Wenner Moyer

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Experts Warn a Rare Pediatric Condition May Re-emerge This Fall

There’s no cure for acute flaccid myelitis, or A.F.M., but early detection is key for better outcomes.

By Emma Marris

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Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let’s celebrate the tiny victories.

A cheap pack of gel window clings slapped on the sliding glass door keep my 1-year-old entertained by herself for 10 minutes while I prep food/answer emails/breathe. (They also stick well on the fridge.) — Brittnee Cann, Los Angeles

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2020年9月25日 星期五

The Daily: Night Walks and Letters

As wildfires blaze across the West, a producer and a poet build “a world out of words.”
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By Bianca Giaever

Last Friday’s special episode was recorded in this trailer.Bianca Giaever

The seed for last Friday’s afternoon episode was planted one month and 18 days ago, when I received an email from the writer Terry Tempest Williams, who lives in Utah. She said that she enjoyed a podcast that I had made, and her email ended: “It is brutally hot here — You can burn grasses with your stare. I have taken to Night Walking.”

Listless and lonely in our pandemic bubbles, we decided to embark on a personal project together. From our separate locations, we agreed to go on a night walk every night for 16 nights in a row, from the new moon until the full moon. After the walk, we would write each other a letter, record ourselves reading it and send it.

Each morning I woke up to a new letter — a gift. Terry told me about her cats (Winslow Homer and Issa), the opening of the datura flower and an ant carrying a blossom. For me, the night walks were about establishing a relationship to the natural world, and a capacity to observe it, as an adult.

After the project ended, we didn’t speak for a couple of weeks and I flew to Los Angeles to visit friends. When I got here, the fires began. I stopped exercising, and a few days later I woke up in a panic, wondering: What were we actually losing in the fires? What would grow back and what wouldn’t? What is this anxiety I feel, and do others feel it too?

It felt obvious to ask Terry for her thoughts. She’s written about the American West for decades, and she speaks about the land the way other people speak about their lovers. So I emailed her with a phrase that had popped into my mind: “an obituary to the land.”

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Terry responded to this prompt, as she had with the letters. Then I called her and started recording.

That phone call lasted an hour. We talked about the smoldering skies, the importance of bearing witness, the hoarseness of our voices in the smoke and her relationship to the West. At our Daily team meeting, I pitched the idea of an afternoon episode that could provide some comfort, in the form of poetry, to our listeners. Terry gave me permission to use the audio from our phone call, and the next night we covered similar ground on a more official call.

It turned out that almost all of the audio we used in the piece was from the first call. As the editor Dave Shaw said: “The first take was from the heart. The second was from the brain.” Through the night walks, we had built a world out of words. When I picked up the phone during this crisis, she was ready to meet me there.

Talk to Bianca on Twitter: @biancagiaever.

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A landmark week

The night was young, by Daily team standards. It was 10:23 p.m. on Wednesday — meaning there was still a full seven hours before our publishing deadline. Our show on the Trump administration’s influence within the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention was researched, scripted and recorded. Michael even teased the episode on Twitter.

Then Andy Mills saw the news.

Reports were emerging that two police officers had been shot in Louisville, Ky., during a night of protests. The Kentucky attorney general had announced that no officers would be charged in the death of Breonna Taylor, while one former detective was charged with three counts of “wanton endangerment in the first degree” for his actions during the raid of Breonna’s apartment. So Andy suggested a new show:

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“As a newer producer on the team, I felt like Andy was asking me to sprout another arm,” the producer Stella Tan said. “But once the surprise wore off, the adrenaline set in.”

So the producers called Rukmini Callimachi, who was on the ground covering the protests in Louisville, and scrambled to contact reporters, like John Eligon, who had been recording their coverage of the protests throughout the day. “Andy and our co-producer Luke Vander Ploeg are pros, and I had faith the team could pull it off with Rukmini’s expertise,” Stella said.

A few hours later, Michael rerecorded the top of the show — and let everyone on Twitter know we’d had a change of plans:

These screen shots capture what happens when a wild news cycle meets our daily turnaround. So instead of our usual newsletter recap, we thought we’d give you a bit more insight into the making of our other shows this week:

Monday: After hearing about the death of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg last Friday night, our team got on a weekend call. As we wondered how best to understand her legacy, the politics and import of the moment came flooding in as Republican leaders began issuing statements about her replacement. Ultimately, that meant we made two shows for one morning — one about her life, and one about what might happen on the bench after her death.

Tuesday: Making polls interesting can be hard. And capturing the nuance behind the numbers? Even harder. This week, the producer Robert Jimison had the idea to call voters to hear the opinions, and life experiences, that informed their responses to The Times’s recent polling of swing states. And after the death of Justice Ginsburg, we wanted to ask voters directly if their vote had changed. When we asked our colleagues at The Upshot about respondents who said they could be contacted, they gave us a list of nearly a hundred. Listen in on our conversations with swing voters across the country.

Wednesday: In covering the current battle over Justice Ginsburg’s open seat, “we wanted to understand the perspective of someone who was viewing this moment as an opportunity and a culmination of a decades-long effort,” our producer Rachel Quester said. So we called Marjorie Dannenfelser, president of the Susan B. Anthony List, an anti-abortion group, who believes this moment will help her organization shape the future of abortion rights in America for years to come.

Friday: Our series The Field returned today, with the familiar voices of Austin Mitchell, a producer, and Astead Herndon, who covers national politics, reporting from the ground in Minneapolis on whether police reform may become a defining issue in the election. Here’s a behind-the-scenes look at what it took to get out in the field, pandemic style:

Austin en route to Minneapolis, face shield in check.Austin Mitchell

Introducing ‘Sway,’ a new podcast from Opinion

Nancy Pelosi.Damon Winter/The New York Times

This week, our colleagues in Opinion Audio kicked off a new podcast called “Sway,” hosted by Kara Swisher. It’s a podcast about power — who has it, who has been denied it and how it shapes our lives.

In the premiere episode, Kara interviewed the House speaker, Nancy Pelosi, about the ambitions — and limits — of her influence. “If the election were held today, we would win it all,” Ms. Pelosi notably told Kara. And on Thursday, Kara spoke with the California governor, Gavin Newsom, about how, 20 months into his term, he’s confronting the state’s dual crises of the pandemic and the wildfires.

Subscribe to Sway for a new episode every Monday and Thursday.

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