'Living Paycheck to Paycheck, Living Diaper to Diaper' |
 | | Eleanor Davis |
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If your child is not potty trained, how many diapers do you have on hand right now? That's a question I certainly wouldn't have been able to answer with any specificity when my children were babies. But it's a question that parents who struggle to afford the expense — about $70-$80 per month, per baby — can answer easily, because managing diaper need is among their most significant anxieties. |
That's what a new study from Jennifer Randles, an associate professor of sociology at California State University, Fresno, has found. She talked to women who didn't just track the number of diapers they had at any time; they tracked their baby's urine output down to the ounce. As Maria, a mom of four, told Dr. Randles: "Diapers is the no. 1 concern for me right now because I don't want to struggle more, so I have to think about this stuff in this way, and I can't go over my daily limit. It's hard living paycheck to paycheck, living diaper to diaper." |
Over half of the 70 women Dr. Randles interviewed said they were more stressed about affording diapers than they were about affording food, housing or electricity. (She attempted to recruit fathers for this study as well, but even after explicitly looking for dads who manage their children's diaper needs, she could find only three willing participants.) |
Diaper need is an under-researched topic, Dr. Randles said, but studies have suggested that somewhere between 29 percent and 36 percent of families struggle to afford diapers. The need is so significant, and it causes outsized stress, because diapers are not subsidized by the major anti-poverty programs: WIC (the Women, Infants, and Children program) covers formula and other foods for pregnant women, mothers of young children and children under 5; and SNAP (the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, or food stamps) covers other nutrition. |
Cora, a mom of five, told Dr. Randles: "I worry about diapers more than food because we can portion our food. We get some food stamps, always have at least a can of something. You can't really portion your diapers in the same way and say, 'OK, I'm going to use only three diapers today.' What if your kid goes poop four times?" |
Though no governmental organization keeps statistics on how much diaper need has increased since the pandemic started, a representative from the National Diaper Bank Network said that there was an 86 percent increase on average in the number of diapers distributed to children and families during the pandemic as compared to pre-pandemic figures, and they projected that nearly 40 percent more children are being served by their diaper banks. |
Holly McDaniel, the executive director of the Austin Diaper Bank in Texas, said that while local need has declined since I last interviewed her in the summer of 2020, "we still are at a 75 percent increase over where we were in February 2020." Ms. McDaniel said that her organization had distributed 1.7 million diapers in 2020, compared with 950,000 diapers in 2019. |
Parents who have not experienced diaper need may have trouble understanding how much time, energy and effort goes into the process of accessing diapers, Dr. Randles said. Some blithely suggest that families should just use cloth diapers, which is "completely oblivious to the actual lived circumstances" of these mothers, some of whom are working multiple jobs, may not have in-home washers and dryers, and might even live in shelters, because they do not have housing. |
Diaper need is also associated with a stigma that may be even deeper than needing food assistance. "It's still taboo to talk about so many different bodily functions," said Dr. Randles, and that inability to meet their children's most intimate needs felt shameful to some women. |
"People just judge you more," Yesenia, a mom of two, told Dr. Randles. "If we needed help with housing or food, people get that, but what does it say about you as a mother if you can't provide diapers, the one simple thing only your child needs?" Perhaps as a result of this stigma, diaper need is linked to greater rates of depressive symptoms in new moms than food insufficiency is. It is also linked to more frequent visits to the pediatrician for diaper rash and urinary tract infections. |
Ms. McDaniel is hopeful that the Biden administration's $1.9 trillion stimulus package, which includes monthly checks of up to $300 paid directly to families for children under 5 will help ameliorate at least some diaper need for her clients. The stimulus package is projected to cut child poverty compared with prepandemic levels by 52 percent for Black families, 45 percent for Latino families and 39 percent for white families. |
There is also some bipartisan legislation in the works to provide support to families in need of diapers during the pandemic. But the moms who need those diapers can't wait; the anxiety of providing for their children's most basic bodily functions is on their mind right now. |
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