2021年4月3日 星期六

Your Pandemic Baby’s Coming Out Party

Advice for introducing a new family member to the world, vaccines and more.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
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Editor's note: Jessica Grose is on vacation this week, so Melonyce McAfee, an NYT Parenting editor, is writing today's newsletter.

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When I gave birth to my first child over the summer, the world was firmly in the grip of the Covid crisis. After a Zoom baby shower, a lonesome hospital stay and a newborn photo session basically shot from the Hubble Space Telescope, my husband and I had officially joined an exclusive club: Parents of Pandemic Babies.

Our girl is fast approaching a year without having met nearly anyone from our social circle, beyond a wave hello from the porch. And though we've treasured the time as a threesome, we worry that she's missing out on forming valuable attachments with loved ones and even strangers.

Thankfully, many of our friends and relatives will soon be vaccinated. So now what?

This week in NYT Parenting, contributor Elizabeth Preston writes about how introducing a child born during the pandemic to the world can be scary for new parents and awkward for all involved. But she finds that if the baby has formed a secure attachment — developed through a safe and consistent physical and emotional relationship — with their parents, the child should have no trouble forming outside relationships once the pandemic is over.

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You should still prepare relatives for the possibility of some rejection from your child, however, said Carola Suárez-Orozco, a professor of counseling and school psychology at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. "Although younger infants might happily go from one set of arms to another, stranger anxiety develops by 8 months or so," Elizabeth writes. "This fear of new people usually lasts well into the child's second year."

Did you also have a new baby during the pandemic? We're collecting readers' photos and experiences with introducing babies to family and friends after lockdown for a future story. Submit yours by using the form at the bottom of Elizabeth's story.

Also opening up: travel. Debra Kamin looks at how families are approaching spring and summer trips in situations where parents are vaccinated but their children are not. And Jenny Marder asks whether participation in spring sports is safe for kids.

Meanwhile, Dr. Jeremy Samuel Faust and Dr. Angela L. Rasmussen write in an op-ed that we can't end the pandemic without vaccinating children.

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In non-pandemic news, Anahad O'Connor details a new study out of the National Institute on Drug Abuse, which found that the brains of teenagers may be more vulnerable to the effects of marijuana and other drugs than people who are college-aged or older. Ezra Klein asks a provocative question on his podcast: When gene editing technology becomes more available, should we use it to edit children's genes to erase potential health problems?

Finally, generations of readers mourned the loss of Beverly Cleary, the gentle powerhouse of children's literature, who died at age 104 last week.

Thanks for reading!

— Melonyce McAfee, senior staff editor, NYT Parenting

THIS WEEK IN NYT PARENTING

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Doris Liou

Your Pandemic Baby's Coming Out Party

Haven't seen your family in a while? Have a grandchild you've never met? Visiting may be awkward at first but you can get through it.

By Elizabeth Preston

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Teenage Brains May Be Especially Vulnerable to Marijuana and Other Drugs

Teenagers are more likely to get hooked on marijuana, stimulants and other recreational drugs than college-aged or older adults.

By Anahad O'Connor

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Todd Anderson for The New York Times

Family Travel Gets Complicated Without a Covid Vaccine for Kids

Amid the chatter of travel's long-awaited rebound one year into the pandemic, many families with children feel largely left out of the conversation.

By Debra Kamin

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Marta Monteiro

We Can't End the Pandemic Without Vaccinating Kids

So far, children have mostly been spared from the worst aspects of Covid-19. Let's keep it that way.

By Jeremy Samuel Faust and Angela L. Rasmussen

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Peter DaSilva

Beverly Cleary Wrote About Real Life, and Her Readers Loved Her for It

The creator of Ramona Quimby and Henry Huggins constructed a world that children recognized — one that changed with the times.

By Elisabeth Egan

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Illustration by The New York Times; photograph by Vanessa Vick for The New York Times

Humanity's Awesome, Terrifying Takeover of Evolution

Walter Isaacson and Ezra Klein discuss the implications of humanity's awesome, terrifying takeover of evolution.

By 'The Ezra Klein Show'

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Abbey Lossing

Are Spring Sports Safe for Kids?

Youth sports are ramping up in many parts of the country. But without a vaccine for children, we still need to avoid spreading the coronavirus.

By Jenny Marder

Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let's celebrate the tiny victories.

Finally put our 5-year-old and 2.5-year-old boys' love of running inside to good use. Their mission: run items from around the house to their proper homes as fast as possible. The "super speed runners" picked up all their toys in minutes AND got some energy out! — Ashley Barber, Houston

If you want a chance to get your Tiny Victory published, find us on Instagram @NYTparenting and use the hashtag #tinyvictories; email us; or enter your Tiny Victory at the bottom of this page. Include your full name and location. Tiny Victories may be edited for clarity and style. Your name, location and comments may be published, but your contact information will not. By submitting to us, you agree that you have read, understand and accept the Reader Submission Terms in relation to all of the content and other information you send to us.

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These are the books I’m reading

You will either think these are very interesting, or that I'm a big nerd.
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By Jamelle Bouie

Opinion Columnist

I've said before, I always have a few books open, cycling among them depending on my mood. Now I'm reading three, none of them related but all of them very interesting.

At the top of the heap is "Liberty's Exiles: American Loyalists in the Revolutionary World," by Maya Jasanoff. It's a history of the tens of thousands of American British subjects who fled the new United States after the Patriot victory in 1783. Jasanoff looks at the colonial tensions that produced the split before exploring how the many different groups of Loyalists fared in the British Empire and how they shaped the places where they eventually settled.

Next is "The World of the John Birch Society: Conspiracy, Conservatism, and the Cold War," by D.J. Mulloy. I am interested in conservative conspiracy theorizing and its impact on American politics, and this is an informative and useful analysis of one of the most influential right-wing groups of the post-World War II era.

Last is Niccolò Machiavelli's "Discourses on Livy," translated by Julia Conaway Bondanella and Peter Bondanella. It's a seminal work of political thinking and a critical document in modern republicanism. I'm reading Machiavelli's analysis of the works of the Roman historian Livy as part of a discussion group with several similarly theory-inclined friends. This is just for my edification but, who knows, something might come of it.

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What I Wrote

My Tuesday column was on the Republican Party's turn against democracy and what it looks like in practice, on the state level.

Where does this all lead? Perhaps it just ends with a few new restrictions and new limits, enough, in conjunction with redistricting, to tilt the field in favor of the Republican Party in the next election cycle but not enough to substantially undermine American democracy. Looking at the 2020 election, however — and in particular at the 147 congressional Republicans who voted not to certify the Electoral College vote — it's not hard to imagine how this escalates, especially if Trump and his allies are still in control of the party.

My Friday column was on the affordable-housing component of President Biden's infrastructure plan.

The fact of the matter is that any serious attempt to reduce inequality and increase workers' share of income has to make housing a priority. High costs are a tax on workers, paid to landlords, banks and affluent homeowners who reap the gains of tight supply and high demand.

Now Reading

Amelia Pollard on the right-wing nonprofit PragerU for The American Prospect.

David Frum on the Trumpified Republican Party's vision of freedom for The Atlantic.

Katherine Miller on post-pandemic digital life for BuzzFeed.

Brandy Jensen on Jack Reacher for Defector.

Eric Levitz on prospects for the Biden presidency in New York magazine.

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Now Watching: 'Nighthawks'

There is something about the crime films of the late 1970s and early '80s that I find immensely appealing. A few weeks ago, I wrote about one of my favorites, Michael Mann's "Thief." This week, I want to recommend a different kind of crime movie from the same period, Bruce Malmuth's 1981 film "Nighthawks," starring Billy Dee Williams and a very young Sylvester Stallone. Grimy and grounded, "Nighthawks" is a thriller involving two New York City cops against a European terrorist, played by Rutger Hauer. It's not as artful or high-concept as "Thief," but it is still very entertaining. It's also around 90 minutes, making it the perfect length for a Saturday night.

Photo of the Week

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Back in November, we went down to the Virginia Museum of Science in Richmond to take our toddler to the model train exhibition. It was a lot of fun, and I got to make use of my macro lens. This is a photo of one of the model towns an exhibitor had built.

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Now Eating: Egg Salad With Pickled Celery and Coarse Dijon

I've been in an egg salad mood this week, probably because I baked a fresh loaf of bread, and egg salad on toast is one of my favorite meals. (You might also have a lot of hard-boiled eggs left over after Easter if you celebrate the holiday.) I use this recipe, from Smitten Kitchen, for my egg salad, with no modifications other than the fact that I make my own mayonnaise. I also garnish with smoked paprika, which you should do too.

Ingredients

  • ¼ cup white wine vinegar
  • ¼ cup water
  • 2 teaspoons kosher salt
  • 1½ teaspoons granulated sugar
  • 2 stalks celery, trimmed, diced tiny
  • 4 large eggs
  • 1 heaped teaspoon whole-grain Dijon
  • 2 teaspoons minced shallot or red onion (or more to taste)
  • 2 tablespoons mayonnaise or full-fat plain yogurt
  • Salt and freshly ground pepper to taste

Directions

Pickle your celery: Combine vinegar, water, kosher salt and sugar in a jar and shake until the salt and sugar dissolve. Add diced celery to jar, cover it and place in the fridge for at least 30 minutes, ideally 1 hour and up to 1 week.

Cook your eggs: Place eggs in a saucepan and cover with an inch of cold water. Bring to a boil over high heat, and once boiling, reduce the heat to medium and set your timer for 10 minutes. Once the timer rings, drain eggs and rinse under cold water to stop cooking. To quickly chill them so that you can use them right away, cover them in ice water for 10 to 15 minutes.

Make your salad: Peel your eggs and chop them, placing them in a medium bowl. Add 1 heaped tablespoon of pickled celery (more to taste), Dijon, shallot, mayo, salt and pepper, and mix. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Serve on toasted whole-grain bread, salad garnished with fresh herbs.

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