2021年5月1日 星期六

Doing Things Is Overrated

How to say no to plans.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
Golden Cosmos

Some of my favorite writers over at The Atlantic had a discussion recently about the inevitable conflict between introverts and extroverts in the coming shot-girl summer. As they put it: "Post-vaccine life may breed some misunderstandings between the extroverts who want to dive headfirst into a sea of other people and the introverts who are excited to see their friends but don't want to pack their schedules so full that they have no time to just be."

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Surprisingly to some people, because I talk so much, I am somewhat introverted. I have a very limited budget of energy for hanging out with others before I shut down and need to be alone at home in soft pants. I don't expect this to change now that I am fully vaccinated, and I wrote about how to say no to plans you don't want to make.

Also this week, Jim Tankersley and Dana Goldstein have a rundown of what's in the Biden administration's American Families Plan, which includes funding for universal prekindergarten education, a federal leave program and free community college for all. Emily Badger and Claire Cain Miller discuss a new benefit for American families going into effect this summer which will deliver a check of $250 to $300 per child per month, except to the wealthiest households. They emphasize how that benefit is revolutionary, because it will be given to parents regardless of whether they work for pay.

Lisa Damour highlights a troubling uptick in eating disorders among teens during the pandemic, and has advice about how to support adolescents who are struggling. Eric Athas outlines a new law that will add sesame to the list of allergens that will be required on food labels, which is welcome news to any parents with allergic children.

Finally, I wrote this week about why perimenopause — the years leading up to the end of a woman's period, or menopause — is still such a mystery. It has to do with the historical and cultural baggage around women aging (Victorian doctors thought menopausal women grew scales and suffered from "'morbid irrationality"); and the fact that we are still learning about the science behind the menopausal transition. Come for the discussion of symptoms, stay for the phrase "murderous lizard people."

Thanks for reading!

— Jessica Grose, columnist, NYT Parenting

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María Medem

If You Don't Want to Go, Say No

Most social obligations would be best left in the Before Times.

By Jessica Grose

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Erin Scott for The New York Times

Biden Details $1.8 Trillion Plan for Workers, Students and Families

The proposed American Families Plan would expand access to education and child care. It would be financed partly through higher taxes on the wealthiest Americans.

By Jim Tankersley and Dana Goldstein

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Desiree Rios for The New York Times

A New Benefit Raises an Old Question: Which Mothers Should Work?

A groundbreaking child allowance stirs a debate among Republicans between promoting work and promoting traditional families.

By Emily Badger and Claire Cain Miller

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Paola Saliby

Adolescence

Eating Disorders in Teens Have 'Exploded' in the Pandemic

Here's what parents need to know.

By Lisa Damour

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5 Takeaways From the New Food Allergy Law

Sesame becomes a "major allergen," joining milk, eggs, fish, shellfish, tree nuts, peanuts, wheat and soybeans.

By Eric Athas

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Monica Garwood

Why Is Perimenopause Still Such a Mystery?

Over 1 billion women around the world will have experienced perimenopause by 2025. But a culture that has spent years dismissing the process might explain why we don't know more about it.

By Jessica Grose

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2021年4月30日 星期五

The Daily: The First 100 Days

What we heard during the Biden administration's first sprint in office. Plus, a dispatch from Odessa, Texas.

By Lauren Jackson and Desiree Ibekwe

Hi everyone, Happy Friday. This week, our team has been listening to this artist, this album and this live performance. We're also thinking about Martin Scorsese's recent Tik Tok appearance and the news that computers are getting much, much better at writing (see how one finished an old, incomplete masterpiece here).

Today, we're looking back at President Biden's first 100 days and wrapping up our series on one Texas high school's reopening.

The Biden administration at 100 days

Although President Biden has pushed a liberal agenda in his first 100 days, he has pushed back on popular proposals to cancel student debt and adopt the entirety of the Green New Deal.Doug Mills/The New York Times

This week, Joe Biden reached his first 100 days as president. Our episodes have closely tracked this formative period — from the initial flurry of executive orders that sought to undo former President Donald Trump's legislative legacy to the debates surrounding the new administration's big spending plans.

In honor of this milestone, we have asked The Daily's resident political expert Rachel Quester (you can read her producer profile here) to share the most significant takeaways from the administration's first few months.

How Joe Biden is trying to get things done: Before the 2020 campaign, Joe Biden spent his career developing a reputation as a bridge builder who could work across the aisle. When he ran for president, we heard a similar message — that he was the one to cut deals and get legislation passed. Considering the political climate we're in, a question I had going into his presidency was: Whom exactly would he be cutting deals with? Would he work with Republicans like he'd done as a senator? Or would his version of bridge building in this era mean bringing together different factions in his own party?

I think his first 100 days in office have begun to answer that question. The Biden presidency has thus far been about keeping the Democratic coalition together in an era where bipartisanship seems unattainable. One of the most interesting things throughout these first few months has been watching the calculations that Mr. Biden has made in order to try and follow through on his pledge to get things done in Washington.

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The power of a single senator: So much of Washington, and the policies that will determine the direction of the country, hinge on Senator Joe Manchin of West Virginia. American politics is usually dominated by tribalism and a competition to be the loudest voice in the room. It's interesting how, in these first 100 days, it is a single voice that seems to have reverberated the loudest, particularly when it comes to getting rid of the filibuster and the contents of the stimulus package. I'm interested to see how President Biden will respond to this in the next 100 days, all while trying to get his massive infrastructure bills passed in Congress, address racial injustice, respond to a migration crisis at the southern border and convince the country of his version of government.

Convincing other countries that they can trust the United States: American politics can often be a pendulum every four to eight years — and the past few swings have been especially sharp. When Donald Trump became president, his agenda focused on undoing the Obama legacy. And when President Biden got into the White House, he immediately began undoing the undoing, reversing the Trump policies that had reversed the Obama policies.

The challenge for Mr. Biden after a particularly turbulent period for American foreign policy is to convince foreign leaders that they can trust the United States to maintain long-term commitments — something foreign leaders appeared to question at Mr. Biden's recent climate summit. (You can hear more about that in Tuesday's episode.) In the meantime, the administration will also need to think proactively about how to manage the public health needs of the American public while also competing in the new soft power arena of vaccine diplomacy.

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A public health crisis becomes a mental health crisis

Joanna Lopez, 18, a senior at Odessa High School.Tamir Kalifa for The New York Times

Today, we released the finale of Odessa, our four-part audio documentary series about one Texas high school's reopening. You can listen to the full story now, and read this article by our producer, Annie Brown, about her experience working on the show. Here's how Annie described the way the team's reporting changed over time.

Early in the process, we figured the story would be about a school district navigating the trade-offs between the health crisis and the education crisis. We braced ourselves to cover outbreaks in classrooms — to document teachers getting sick or students losing family members to the virus. Fortunately, none of our sources experienced that kind of loss firsthand. And as was the case in many schools across the country, the coronavirus outbreaks never occurred. Instead, a new crisis emerged: a crisis of mental health. — Annie Brown

On The Daily this week

Monday: How Russia is using its vaccine, Sputnik V, as a tool for international diplomacy.

Tuesday: America's credibility when it comes to climate policy is shot on the global stage. Can Joe Biden win it back?

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Wednesday: India is experiencing the worst coronavirus outbreak in the world. We speak to Jeffrey Gettleman from New Delhi.

Thursday: What we learned from Joe Biden's first address to a joint session of Congress.

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