2021年6月5日 星期六

Will Our Children Dream of Masks?

How the pandemic might affect their tiny psyches.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
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I was reading a picture book to my 4-year-old last week when she asked me why the kids depicted weren't wearing masks. For her, it was a mundane point of information, like asking why a character is wearing a yellow shirt. I realized then that the pandemic has accounted for roughly one-quarter of her life, and I wondered what she will remember from this past year — how it might affect her tiny psyche. Will masks appear in her dreams when she's stressed as an adult?

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I thought of this interaction when I read Alejandro Zambra's lyrical musing about childhood memories, the nature of time and how the Covid year might affect his 3-year-old son. Alejandro perfectly captures the way that getting into your children's head space can scramble time, and act as a kind of anti-anxiety drug for parents: "Every day I feel my son change, and his fluctuations and accelerations have built an internal rhythm of the pandemic, a rhythm that has allowed us to endure it."

Also this week, Sarah Williamson, an art director at the Times, has a lovely comic about a lengthy visit to Arizona to help care for her mom, who has multiple sclerosis. Lisa Damour has a piece about why teenagers really need a mental health break this summer — and how to give them the space to be kind to themselves. Jillian Freyer and Christina Caron collaborated on a photo essay about teen moms and the unique challenges they have faced in the pandemic.

And finally, when blood clots were potentially linked to the Johnson & Johnson vaccine, some women wondered: Why aren't we talking more about the risk of blood clots from birth control pills, which is statistically much higher? Apoorva Mandavilli talked to experts, and as one reproductive endocrinologist told her, it's "crucial for health care providers to discuss the risks with their patients and coach them on worrisome symptoms" of blood clots. (You can find descriptions of the different kinds of blood clots and their symptoms here.)

Thanks for reading.

— Jessica Grose, columnist, NYT Parenting

THIS WEEK IN NYT PARENTING

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Illustration by Rose Wong

What Will My Son Remember of This Horrible Year?

Dispatches from the pandemic for my 3-year-old.

By Alejandro Zambra

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Gardening in the Desert With My Mom

Sarah Williamson, an artist, spent part of the pandemic with her mother, who was struggling. Read the illustrated story of how their time together became a healing experience.

By Sarah Williamson

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Yifan Wu

Adolescence

Why Teens Need a Break This Summer

The pandemic has been the psychological workout of their lives. The next few months can be a time of recovery.

By Lisa Damour

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What It's Like to Be a Teenage Mom During the Pandemic

As new parents and high school students, they were determined to build a better future in the midst of unprecedented hardship.

By Jillian Freyer and Christina Caron

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Lauren Justice for The New York Times

A Vaccine Side Effect Leaves Women Wondering: Why Isn't the Pill Safer?

Scientists were alarmed by blood clots possibly linked to the J&J vaccine. Some women wondered if there shouldn't be more concern about oral contraceptives.

By Apoorva Mandavilli

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2021年6月4日 星期五

The Daily: What Does Justice Look Like?

Our producer reflects. Plus, behind the making of Day X.

Hi everyone, welcome to Friday and welcome to summer. Tell us: What do you want to listen to on your summer road trip, or while you're on a hike or lying on the beach? We're open to show requests (no promises, but we always love to hear what you're curious about).

This week in the newsletter, our producer Neena Pathak shares how our team thought about Tuesday's episode. Then, we go behind the scenes on the making of Day X with Katrin Bennhold, The Times's Berlin bureau chief.

Crowds of people watching fires during the June 1, 1921, Tulsa Race Massacre in Tulsa, Okla. A violent white mob entered the prosperous Black community, burning homes and businesses and killing hundreds.Department of Special Collections, McFarlin Library, The University of Tulsa, via Associated Press

By Neena Pathak

For years, few Americans knew what had happened in Tulsa, Okla., in 1921: one of the worst racial terror attacks in our nation's history. A white mob killed hundreds of residents, burned more than 1,250 homes and erased years of Black success in Greenwood, a prosperous Black neighborhood in Tulsa. After the attack, both victims and perpetrators were silenced by fear — the former of retaliation if they spoke out and the latter of advertising their crimes. But silence can be hard to work with in our medium. So we knew we had to resurrect this history in the voices of those who lived it and those who had studied it, documenting what exactly happened, how the history seemed to disappear, and why that history matters.

We decided to open and close the episode with the voice of Viola Ford Fletcher, one of the three known survivors of the massacre, who testified in Congress last month. Ms. Fletcher, 107, was 7 years old when a white mob burned Greenwood. When my colleagues Liz O. Baylen, Soraya Shockley and I listened to her testimony, we were moved not only by her memories of that day, but also by her poignant depiction of the lasting impact this massacre has had on her life. She captured what Chief Egunwale Amusan, President of the African Ancestral Society in Tulsa, later said in the hearing: "This is not a matter of past trauma, but it is concurrent." While we weren't able to incorporate the testimonies of all three survivors into one short episode, listening helped us understand what recurring themes to highlight, including the import of this event, and what justice might look like a century later.

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To do this, we turned to Brent Staples, one of our editorial board members. Brent's breadth of knowledge on this subject posed a challenge to our production team: How do we distill so much information into one podcast episode? He knew so much about the Tulsa massacre — the makeup of Greenwood, the testimonies of Black Tulsans who survived the violence and destruction perpetrated by deputized white mobs, and the labor involved in resurfacing this history years after the attacks. Every question we had yielded more stories — and additional questions. It was hard to know where to begin.

Brent joined us for five expansive recording sessions (each up to three hours long), and through our conversations, we were able to create a show structure to both explain this history and its significance for America's ongoing reckoning with systemic racism.

We ended the show on a question: What does justice look like? It's a question that's present in our national discourse as Americans wrestle with centuries of slavery, Jim Crow and, in the case of Greenwood, the eradication of a thriving Black community. And after Ms. Fletcher's testimony, lawmakers must contend with another, related, question: Does justice require reparations?

Follow Neena on Twitter: @neenpathak.

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Behind the making of Day X

A photo of Franco A. at a ceremony at the Saint-Cyr military academy in France. Laetitia Vancon for The New York Times

In the spring of 2019, the Daily producers Lynsea Garrison and Clare Toeniskoetter worked with Katrin Bennhold, the Berlin bureau chief, to create a series on European populism. They knew they wanted to work together again, and at the time Katrin was just starting to think about embarking on a big project: reporting on the infiltration of the military and the police by far-right extremists planning for the end of liberal democracy in Germany. "We wanted to get in on the ground floor and make this a true audio project," Clare said. Our colleague Terence McGinley spoke with Katrin and Clare about the making of the series, and below is an excerpt from his conversation with Katrin.

Katrin, you have been covering the far right in Germany for several years. How did you arrive at this series?

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This has been an important reporting theme in my time in Germany. The rise of a far-right party, the Alternative for Germany, which was able to make it into the German Parliament and is the biggest opposition party there, is a big deal. And then this case of Franco A. came back toward the end of 2018, when German news media reported that there was this whole network of soldiers and police officers and like-minded civilians who were planning for the day democracy dies: Day X. Some reports even called this network a shadow army. "Shadow army" is a term that has a lot of historical baggage for anyone in Germany. They were these paramilitary groups in the 1920s that assassinated politicians and plotted coups. That's really what got me started.

Franco A. is the special focus of one episode. He is somebody with racist, absolutist ideas. Why was it important to tell his story?

To me, one of the most frightening and most important features of the new right, as they call themselves — the old right being neo-Nazis and even Nazis — is that the new right believes in the same ideology, but they look different and they talk differently. They often don't use crude racist slurs.

We have this image of neo-Nazi skinheads in bomber jackets and tattoos. But a lot of these guys blend in much more — and what the German authorities are now realizing is that some of them are wearing police or military uniforms.

I feel we do need to show them for what they are. The more we learn about how they act and disguise their ideology to make it more socially acceptable, the more we can unpack real grievances from fakes ones, the better equipped we are to understand our world today. I know it's a really fine line, and I think The New York Times and all of us need to be careful not to give people like that a platform; it's a thing that constantly has to be on our minds as we do these stories.

On The Daily this week

Tuesday: A recounting of what happened during the Tulsa Race Massacre and an exploration of what justice could look like 100 years on.

Wednesday: A look inside the mind of Senator Joe Manchin, the make-or-break legislator of the Biden era.

Thursday: How and why did the Texas state legislature just have the most ultraconservative legislative session in modern memory?

Celebrate graduation with the Odessa team

And this coming week, we have a special live event with Michael Barbaro and the team behind Odessa, following up with our sources to hear how they have been since the show aired — and to celebrate their graduation. We'll also hear from the Odessa High School marching band and La'Darius Marshall from the Netflix series "Cheer." We hope you'll join us.

That's it for The Daily newsletter. See you next week.

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