2021年10月23日 星期六

A Return to Quarantine

The virus scare in my child's class was inevitable, but I didn't expect it to come so soon.
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I started the school year assuming that one of my two children would be quarantined for Covid exposure at some point. I just thought we would make it more than three weeks in a classroom before we returned to remote-learning, shut-in purgatory.

Sure enough, my kindergartner's classroom shut down for a full week earlier this month. We were lucky: Our daughter did not contract the virus. But I would not recommend the experience! I thought I was intellectually and emotionally prepared for having a kid underfoot all day every day again, but it was surprisingly upsetting for the whole family.

Which is all to say, I wish I had Dr. Perri Klass's guidance for how to prepare a kid for a coronavirus exposure at school before we had to live through it. The hardest part for us was probably Dr. Klass's advice to model appropriate coping strategies. What my husband and I really wanted to do after our kid got quarantined was take to our beds and scream expletives into a pillow. But instead, he took the morning shifts with our daughter, I took the afternoon shifts, and we muddled through with some grandparent assistance — just like we did at the beginning of the pandemic.

In Opinion, Spencer Bokat-Lindell explains why the U.S. government has been so resistant to spending money on child care. And in Well, Jake Halpern writes a wonderful essay about taking his son on a grueling four-day hike, and why it's important for him and his family to embrace physical risks, even as they are aware of potential dangers, because their son has a bee-sting allergy. Lisa Damour explains how to talk to your kids about weed edibles, which may be riskier for them to take than other forms of marijuana, in part because it's hard to control the dose (something I learned the hard way during an unfortunate brownie incident in college). Also this week, we have a host of guides to help you teach your kid mindfulness, have better family meals and learn how to raise a reader.

Finally, Dr. Trisha Pasricha, a physician at Massachusetts General Hospital, answers a reader question: Should you get a Covid booster shot if you're pregnant? The experts agree: yes, and the sooner, the better.

"Not only does an earlier booster likely mean a lower chance of a breakthrough infection (which could increase the risk of preterm birth), but, as is the case with other recommended vaccines in pregnancy, an earlier shot could translate to more antibodies passed to the fetus," she writes. Dr. Pasricha, who is pregnant, got a booster herself recently.

Thanks for reading.

— Jessica Grose, columnist, NYT Parenting

THIS WEEK IN NYT PARENTING

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Janice Chang

How to Prepare Your Kid for a Coronavirus Exposure at School

Because even classrooms with the strictest safety protocols might have to deal with some cases.

By Perri Klass, M.D.

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Spencer Bokat-Lindell

Why Is Raising a Child in the United States So Hard?

Family welfare policies never took off in the United States as they did in the rest of the wealthy world. Some Democrats think the country is ready.

By Spencer Bokat-Lindell

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Luke Wohlgemuth

I Couldn't Let My Son's Allergy Stand in the Way of Adventure

Because the clearest views in life can be seen while standing at the edge of a scary cliff.

By Jake Halpern

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How to Talk to Teens About Edibles

Pot brownies and colorful gummies may look harmless and can be easy to hide, but it's important for caregivers to help adolescents understand the risks.

By Lisa Damour

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Sam Kalda

Guide

Mindfulness for Children

Children of all ages can benefit from mindfulness. It can help parents and caregivers, too. Here are tips for children and adults of all ages for how to be more present, every day.

By David Gelles

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Amrita Marino

Guide

Have Better Family Meals

Sometimes it's hard to find the time to eat as a family. It's important to take advantage of whatever opportunity you have to nourish the mind, soul and stomach of everyone at the table.

By Tara Parker-Pope

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Dan Yaccarino

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How to Raise a Reader

The benefits of reading at every stage of a child's development are well documented. Happily, raising a reader is fun, rewarding and relatively easy.

By Pamela Paul and Maria Russo

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Aileen Son for The New York Times

Ask Well

Should You Get a Covid Booster if You Are Pregnant?

Experts strongly agree that the shots benefit the mother as well as the fetus.

By Trisha Pasricha

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Tiny Victories

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Trying new foods is always hard, so I convinced my three-year-old that if he ate his broccoli, I'd be able to SEE him grow. With each bite, I acted at amazed about how big and strong he was getting. It worked!— Jodie Meyn, Fort Thomas, Ky.

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2021年10月22日 星期五

The Daily: The future of Libya

A former dictator's son is running for office. Can he win?

By Lauren Jackson

Welcome to the weekend. In this newsletter, we try to answer the question from the end of today's Daily episode: Will Libya be ruled by another Qaddafi? Then, our team shares some reading and listening recommendations.

A reminder: We're in the early phases of launching a new iOS app in the U.S., and we want your thoughts on it. Visit nytimes.com/audio for more information.

The Big Idea: Will Libya be ruled by another Qaddafi?

The Daily strives to reveal a new idea in every episode. Below, we go deeper on one from our show this week.

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Seif al-Islam el-Qaddafi, the second son of Libya's deposed longtime dictator, Col. Muammar el-Qaddafi, in 2011. He has recently re-emerged after 10 years, touting his political ambitions.Ammar El-Darwish/Reuters

Seif al-Islam el-Qaddafi was missing a thumb, dressed in a gown with gold fringes and hiding in a lavish home high in the hills of northwest Libya. This was how we found the son of the former Libyan dictator Col. Muammar el-Qaddafi, who is hinting at a run for president in the country's upcoming elections.

For nearly a decade, Seif has been a ghost. An alumnus of the London School of Economics and former regular on the Davos circuit, he once spoke of reforming his father's regime. Then the Arab Spring came, and Seif instead joined the Qaddafi government's brutal crackdown on the Libyan uprising. Soon after, he was captured by a rebel group and spent the following years in a kind of cave, cut off from the outside world.

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As you heard on today's show, he's now back, with political dynasty still on his mind. But can he win? We asked experts about his political viability and whether the elections could change anything in Libya.

An unlikely candidacy

Since the revolution, Libya has experienced a "period of profound instability and chaos," Alessia Melcangi, a senior fellow at the Atlantic Council, said. The country has buckled under foreign intervention, militia violence, economic chaos, an ongoing migration crisis and a civil war that has fractured control of Libya into disparate centers of power.

"Any time you've suffered this kind of divisive civil war, people naturally look for a strong leader," Francis Fukuyama, an author and political scientist, said. But could another Qaddafi become that leader?

"I think it's highly unlikely," Tim Eaton, a senior research fellow at Chatham House, said. Tarek Megerisi, a senior fellow at the European Council on Foreign Relations, agreed: "I think it's massively overblown."

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While both concede that Seif benefits from name recognition and a sense of nostalgia, especially among younger Libyans who don't remember the Qaddafi dictatorship, they also point to a critical challenge: his difficulty in leaving the house safely. "It's kind of hard to be president of a country," Tarek said, "when you can't do anything with the public."

In addition to threats on his life by political rivals, Seif faces an arrest warrant from the International Criminal Court and "fragmented support" from the country's Green Movement, a constituency he is relying on, Tim said.

But they also question whether the problem with finding a consensus candidate runs deeper than Seif's campaign.

The path forward for Libya

Tarek calls the upcoming elections a "Hail Mary shot that a few internationals believe is worth trying, whereby they can just hold elections in the country and it will kind of heal the divisions he will have." He added, "I don't think that's a realistic dream."

The country's interim government is struggling to force out foreign fighters who have backed disparate sides of the Libyan conflict. And the elections, backed by the United Nations, face disputes over candidate eligibility, and the legal and constitutional basis of the balloting system. Additionally, experts say the elections will probably fail to address two key issues: the allocation of resources, including wealth from oil and gas, and a fractured national identity.

"I don't see a path forward to overcoming the big identity splits that have really been the basis of the instability ever since the fall of Qaddafi," Francis said. He added that while a power-sharing arrangement could help stabilize the country, ongoing conflict was more likely because "these groups really feel that they've been in a zero-sum struggle with one another."

The expected outcome of the elections? More of the same. "I think there will be a series of disputes over the process of the parliamentary and presidential elections, which will then lead to an impasse," Tim said.

"Working on Libya for a long time, you feel a bit like you live in that movie 'Groundhog Day,' " Tarek added.

For your playlists

The seasons are (sadly) turning and, unless you're a lucky Australian, most of us are going to be very inside for the next couple of months. Here are some listening recommendations from our narrated articles team to get you through.

Black moviegoers outside a theater in Chicago, 1941.Photograph by Russell Lee. Courtesy of Library of Congress, Prints & Photographs Division, Farm Security Administration/Office of War Information Black-and-White Negatives, LC-USF34–038814-D.

"Colorization: One Hundred Years of Black Films in a White World": Wil Haygood tells the story of Black filmmakers in his ninth book. He has written biographies of influential Black Americans including Thurgood Marshall and Sammy Davis Jr., but he shows no signs of lethargy.

Dwight Garner, the author and narrator of this article, writes that while many prolific nonfiction writers grow bleary, Haygood "has become a master craftsman."

"State of Terror": The former secretary of state Hillary Clinton published her first novel, teaming up with Louise Penny, an established novelist.

The plot is ambitious: Ellen Adams, a former proprietor of an international media empire, is improbably appointed the American secretary of state. The story starts when a bomb goes off in London, another in Paris and a third in Frankfurt. And so begins a high-speed diplomatic race.

This book comes on the heels of "The President's Daughter," the second joint effort between former President Bill Clinton and the writer James Patterson. Sarah Lyall, a writer at large for The Times, concludes that while perhaps there is nothing inherently competitive about celebrity spouses pairing with established novelists within a few months of each other, "I'm going to award the prize of Best Clinton Thriller of 2021 to Hillary."

"Succession": The third season of the HBO series received a seal of approval from The Times's chief television critic, James Poniewozik, who called it "scabrously funny."

While the show "is superficially in the same genre as 'Dynasty,' 'Dallas' and other bygone soaps about the unhappy superrich," James writes, it differs in key ways because "being rich is nothing like it used to be."

"The Velvet Underground": The director Todd Haynes has "never met a genre he couldn't deconstruct," according to The Times's A.O. Scott. In this documentary, Haynes doesn't just want you to listen to the reminiscences of band members and those around them, he wants viewers to "hear just how strange and new the Velvets sounded, to grasp, intuitively as well as analytically, where that sound came from."

On The Daily this week

Monday: Why both American political parties are so invested in the Virginia governor's race.

Tuesday: Colin Powell died on Monday at 84. We look back on his life and singular career.

Wednesday: With Senator Joe Manchin's support for the Clean Electricity Program now extremely unlikely, what's next for American climate policy?

Thursday: The showdown in Chicago between Mayor Lori Lightfoot and the police union over vaccine mandates.

Friday: Our interview with Seif al-Islam el-Qaddafi.

That's it for the Daily newsletter. See you next week.

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