2022年2月23日 星期三

The T List: Five things we recommend this week

A boutique hotel in Texas, a new line of eclectic wallpaper — and more.

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A Boutique Hotel in What May Be the Cotswolds of Texas

Left: a cedar-paneled suite at Hotel Lulu, with pillows and shams from Tribute Goods, in Houston, and a blanket from the city's Studio Imli that was woven in Pakistan. Right: a corner of Il Cuculo, the hotel's bar.Pär Bengtsson

By Jennifer Conrad

T Contributor

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Round Top, Texas, which sits between Austin and Houston, is something of an unexpected design destination. In the 1960s, Faith and Charles Lewis Bybee, a wealthy Houston couple with a conservationist streak, started transplanting historic farmhouses from other parts of the state there. Then, in 1968, it began hosting a major antiques fair that's still going strong (this year's spring edition opens March 28). The problem for visitors was that there weren't many places to stay in town. But the married hoteliers Cinda Murphy de Palacios and Armando Palacios — who in 1980 purchased a home in Round Top that they've since converted to a restaurant — have changed that with Hotel Lulu. The property offers 14 rooms spread across six 19th-century bungalows, as well as three private cottages. It opened last summer after a 15-month renovation, during which the Palacios restored original plank wood floors and cedar walls. They partnered with the Houston-based Studio Imli on custom (and purchasable) cotton blankets handwoven by artisans in the Cholistan Desert in Pakistan, and worked with the artist Andrea Condara on a painted mural depicting pink birds and trailing greenery that stretches to the ceiling of the hotel bar, Il Cuculo. There's plenty of natural beauty, too, and the Palacios hope the region will become the Cotswolds of Texas, luring tech people from the major cities to watch the sun set over the prairie from a perch by the pool. Rooms from $225, hotellulutx.com.

BUY THIS

Intense Face Creams to Get You Through the Rest of Winter

Clockwise from top left: Omorovicza Cushioning Day Cream, $238, omorovicza.com. EADEM Cloud Cushion Airy Brightening Moisturizer, $58, eadem.co. RéVive Moisturizing Renewal Day Cream SPF 30, $195, reviveskincare.com. Osea Seabiotic Water Cream, $48, ulta.com, Avène Tolerance Control Soothing Skin Recovery Balm, $35, aveneusa.com.Courtesy of the brands

Whatever your personal thoughts on winter, by this point in the season, your skin has likely had enough. And so, for the frosty weeks still ahead of us, it's worth seeking out a rich, calming moisturizer, such as Omorovicza's Cushioning Day Cream. It sinks in immediately and contains marine plankton and microalgae, which are thought to strengthen the barrier quality of the stratum corneum, or the outermost layer of skin. With its blend of peptides, ceramides and snow mushroom — a gelatinous fungus that retains water — Cloud Cushion cream from Eadem also supports the skin barrier while helping to prevent dark spots. For slightly less parched skin, there's Osea's Seabiotic Water Cream, which feels like a cross between a mousse and a gel and was named for its blend of probiotics, prebiotics and seaweed. You'll also find a bounty of oceanic ingredients, including antioxidant-rich red algae, in RéVive Skincare's Moisturizing Renewal Day Cream, which additionally has SPF 30. Finally, those with super sensitive skin might want to try the one-two punch of Pai's Resurrection Girl mask — a silky treatment that rehydrates in 10 minutes — followed by Avène's Tolerance Control Soothing Skin Recovery Balm, which subdues the redness and tightness brought on by a day of skiing, or really any attempt at being outdoors in February.

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Slippers That Tell a Story

A pair of Feit house slippers decorated with illustrations by Oliver Jeffers. The shoes come with a children's book about sustainability.Yasmina Cowan

"There is that old saying that if you buy cheap, you buy twice," said the Northern Irish visual artist and children's book author Oliver Jeffers, who recently partnered with the Australian, New York-based shoe brand Feit on a pair of indoor vegetable-tanned leather slippers for both adults and children. They're decorated with Jeffers's playful illustrations of trees, flames, hammers, hands and feet — motifs that also appear in a slender children's book Feit has published called "All That We Need," which comes with each purchase of the slippers and tells a story about the importance of sustainability. It's a philosophy shared by Feit's co-founders, the brothers Josh and Tull Price. All of Feit's shoes are handmade from only natural materials. "From the outset we have been focused on quality not quantity, craft not commerce, natural materials over synthetics, humans over machines," says Tull, whose two sons wear the slippers when he and his wife, Feit partner Natasha Shick, read to them before bed. Adds Jeffers: "I'd be more intrigued to hear why people are not interested in sustainability, and if anyone could explain their reasoning without sounding lazy or selfish." A convincing argument to buy once and have no regrets. $300 for youth; $350 for adults, feitdirect.com.

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Cindy Greene's New Line of Eclectic Wallpapers and Home Items

Left: Sabel's Vivace wallpaper in Tangerine and pillow in Fawn. Right: the Anubis wallpaper in Onyx.Harry Eelman for Sabel

By Megan O'Sullivan

T Contributor

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In the 11 years since moving on from Libertine, the cult ready-to-wear label she founded with Johnson Hartig in 2001 that's known for lively prints and an antique feel, the artist and designer Cindy Greene has brought her sensibility to interiors. Now, she's launched her own line of home décor items, Sabel, which offers wallpapers, poplin pillows, and les poubelles: brass receptacles crafted with delicately hammered surfaces. Designed to be paired together, the pillows and wallpapers are covered with ancient symbols, garden creatures, whimsical characters or geometric shapes. The Anubis wallpaper, for instance, features Egyptian hieroglyphics and the jackal-headed god of the afterlife for whom it's named, while the Medusa wallpaper shows a tangle of serpents. Clearly, Greene draws upon a wide range of sources. For this collection, she also referenced books she read as a child: See the lion-patterned Aslan paper, named after the "Chronicles of Narnia" (1950-56) character, or Greene's favorite, a leafy motif with snails and intricate spider webs called Absolem, after the caterpillar in "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland" (1865). One inspiration remains consistent no matter the print, however: "My mother was an amateur interior decorator," says Greene. "There was nothing she couldn't do, and watching her as a kid made me think I could do this." sabelstudios.com.

EAT THIS

Hokkaido Specialties by Way of the Lower East Side

Jewelry Udon, a dish of uni and ikura from Hokkaido served with house-made noodles.Courtesy of Kappo Sono

By Mimi Vu

T Contributor

The chef Chikara Sono grew up in Sapporo, on the Japanese island of Hokkaido, which is known as the breadbasket of Japan. "There are so many unique ingredients that you can't get anywhere else," says Sono, who adored such local specialties as sanpei-jiru (a salmon and potato soup) and jingisukan (a grilled mutton dish). He's importing some of the island's pristine seafood for his new, eight-seat kaiseki restaurant, Kappo Sono, which is nestled behind a curtain within BBF, his tavern on Manhattan's Lower East Side. "I often create dishes that remind me of things I had at home, or when I was a child," says Sono, whose previous establishment, Kyo Ya, in the East Village, received a Michelin star. At Kappo Sono, these will include hotate kunyu-zuke, or smoked scallops, inspired by the versions dipped in olive oil sold by street vendors in Sapporo, as well as Jewelry Udon, a plate of uni and ikura (salted salmon roe) served with homemade noodles. Then there's Sono's polished Yumepirika rice with wakasa-style grilled kinki, or channel rockfish, a highly prized, fatty species that dwells hundreds of feet below the surface of the Pacific and is considered a Hokkaido specialty. bbfkapposono.com/sono.

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A Principal's Office Turned Bedroom

A bedroom in Dan McCarthy's home, a former school, in upstate New York.Photograph by Jason Schmidt. Styled by Victoria Bartlett

What was once a principal's office on the second floor of the ceramist Dan McCarthy's home — a former schoolhouse in upstate New York — is now a small bedroom. Built in 1899 as a gift to the community by Lysander Lawrence, a rich New Yorker who spent summers with his wife at the neighboring Catskill Mountain House, the school opened its doors in 1901 and remained in operation until 1977. Shortly after McCarthy moved in, but before he'd gotten around to planting trees in the front yard, the property was, he says, "really accessible." Strangers used to show up unannounced asking for tours, curious to see what had become of their former classrooms. Read the full story on tmagazine.com, and follow us on Instagram.

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2022年2月18日 星期五

The Daily: The Show Turns Five

Michael Barbaro reflects on half a decade of The Daily.
Michael Barbaro preparing for a four-hour election broadcast in November 2020.Sara Krulwich/The New York Times

On the morning of Feb. 1, Michael Barbaro sent an email to the Daily team with the subject line "5 Years!" For those of us still waking up bleary-eyed after producing that morning's episode, it was a reminder: The Daily was having a birthday.

Since 2017, our team has produced nearly 1,300 episodes and told countless stories. (You can revisit some of them in a playlist below.) Daily listeners have been with us through impeachments and elections, terror attacks and natural disasters, a riot at the Capitol and a global pandemic. You've allowed us into your lives, and you've shared with us your feedback and personal stories.

As we reflect on the show's half-decade history, we thought we'd share an excerpt from Michael's email:

Team,

Five years ago this morning, we published the very first episode of The Daily.

Listening back, as I did a few days ago, the host sounds gratingly high-pitched, but the episode vibrates with ambition. A new president had his first vacancy on the Supreme Court (sound familiar?), and we asked our inaugural guest, the ever-patient Adam Liptak, to prerecord two entirely different second segments, mini biographies of the two likeliest nominees, because we didn't know which judge Trump would select.

Neil Gorsuch was his choice, and those who hit play on Feb. 1, 2017, heard something remarkable: the authority, curiosity and humor of The Times brought to life in a totally new and intimate way.

The question was how many people would actually listen? From the start, we confronted a mountain of justifiable skepticism. Did the world really need a five-day-a-week news podcast? Wouldn't episodes get stale after 24 hours? Wouldn't Times reporters get tired of coming on?

Fair questions, all. There were ample reasons to think we would fail.

But what nobody could foresee back then was that the right combination of producers and editors, the right blend of audio journalists and storytellers, of composers and wordsmiths, Pro Tools wizards and guest whisperers — not to mention the world's best newsroom — could make a daily news podcast not just urgent and essential, not just beloved and addictive, but transcendent.
[…]

Here's to the next five years.

Michael

(And for some bonus birthday fodder, check out the origin story of our theme music and this list of the names we almost called the show.)

From the Daily team: some much-needed 'good news'

Like a prospector in the Klondike at the turn of the 20th century, the team panned through nearly 700 messages for some good news.Bettmann Archives, via Getty Images

Luke Vander Ploeg is up next in our series in which we ask Daily producers and editors to tell us about the most memorable episode that they've worked on. Luke has been with the team since 2019.

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Luke's pick is "The Year in Good News," from December 2020. The episode focused on brighter stories from a dark and difficult year provided by Daily listeners in the form of voice notes. We sat down with Luke to talk about making the show and sifting through some 400 voice recordings, with the help of other producers.

How did the episode come to be?

One of my fellow producers pitched the idea of an episode in which we asked listeners to tell us about good news that happened to them during the pandemic. It had been an incredibly rough year for everybody — 2020 was a dark time — and we wanted to discover what surprisingly beautiful things happened while people were suffering so much. So Michael did a callout on an episode, asking listeners to send in voice memos, and we built an episode using those recordings.

What was it like sifting through all those recordings?

Going through those voice memos was possibly the most fun thing I've ever done for The Daily. It was endlessly fun. It's always inspiring to hear from our listeners. The recordings were poetic, they were beautiful, they were surprising. Some of them were deeply moving, funny and adorable. It was a real privilege to get to listen to all of them and put them into an episode.

What was it about this episode that you loved so much?

I like to be involved in making things that scratch at the complexity of being human. I was shocked by the depth of feeling I experienced while I was putting this together. There was this one story about a woman who, because of the pandemic, was able to reconcile with her daughter. (They had been estranged for a number of years.) It also felt so good to interact with our listeners and to be in touch with real people, especially after months of lockdown. I'm really proud of what we came up with, and I think it was a service to a lot of people in a dark time.

Is there a moment from the process that sticks out in your mind?

I think the one part of the process that sticks out to me the most was when I called this kid named Thor. A mom sent in a voice memo about her son who had a genetic developmental disease. During the pandemic, he went into remission. For the first time, he was gifted the ability to do so many things that he wasn't able to do before. Whereas most people's lives were being put on hold, this kid suddenly got a life. I remember thinking, "I want to talk to this kid." So I got to call him and just chat with him on the phone for a little bit.

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Want to journey into the Daily archive?

Here's a short collection of essential Daily listens, handpicked by members of our team:

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'The Daily': The Climate Change Battle Through One Coal Miner's Eyes

Forget the political. For the 65,000 coal miners in the United States, this is just about daily life. We called one of them.

By Michael Barbaro

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Lost in the Storm, Part 1

Houston's emergency response systems, crippled by Hurricane Harvey, failed to reach people who needed help the most.

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The Woman Defending Harvey Weinstein

One of the reporters who broke the story of the Hollywood producer's alleged abuse speaks with Donna Rotunno, the lawyer behind Mr. Weinstein's legal strategy.

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'It's Like a War'

We spoke to a doctor triaging care at the heart of the coronavirus crisis in Italy about what may lie ahead for the U.S.

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The Burning of Black Tulsa

A century after a race massacre that leveled businesses and homes, and killed hundreds, what would justice look like?

By Michael Barbaro, Neena Pathak, Soraya Shockley, Annie Brown, Daniel Guillemette, Alexandra Leigh Young, Austin Mitchell, Liz O. Baylen, Lisa Chow and Chris Wood

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Listen to 'The Daily': Disappearing Factory Jobs

How President Trump's promise of "America First" has met the realities of U.S. manufacturing.

By Michael Barbaro

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On The Daily this week

Monday: We explore the Rooney Rule, a two-decade-old policy at the heart of a discrimination lawsuit against the N.F.L.

Tuesday: How would the Ukrainian people respond to a Russian invasion?

Wednesday: An exploration of the American-style trucker protests in Canada.

Thursday: Why, in the midst of an escalation at the Ukrainian border, the U.S. has rejected using its most powerful tool: troops.

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2022年2月17日 星期四

When the parenting never stops

A new book focuses on caring for "difficult adult children."
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"A mother's internalized mandate to protect her child does not end when her children are grown"

We have a mainstream directive for raising children in our society: You provide them with support, shelter and care until they're 18, and then they're supposed to be, more or less, self-sufficient, launched into the world as adults. This framework leaves out millions of parents whose children struggle with substance abuse or mental illness, who may be providing active care to their adult children for the rest of their lives.

A new book, "Difficult: Mothering Challenging Adult Children through Conflict and Change," by Judith R. Smith, an associate professor at the Graduate School of Social Service at Fordham, seeks to define and explore this often painful type of parenting. An estimated 8.4 million Americans care for "an adult with an emotional or mental health issue," according to a 2016 report from the National Alliance for Caregiving, and 45 percent of mental health caregivers are caring for an adult child.

For "Difficult," Smith writes, she spoke to 50 mothers of adult children who were not fully independent, who had issues from severe mental illness to persistent unemployment. All of these mothers were over 60, and many were also dealing with their own declining physical and emotional health. Smith writes that half the women she spoke to were doing this with incomes under $17,000 a year for a family of two.

"My research revealed that a mother's internalized mandate to protect her child does not end when her children are grown," Smith writes, and she outlines the stigma and worry they feel about their children's problems. She seeks to lessen this stigma for parents, more and more of whom will be in the same situation as her book's subjects in the coming years, with young adults increasingly reporting mental health issues, particularly during the pandemic, and the opioid crisis continuing to take lives.

There is very little social support for these parents and their children: According to the National Alliance for Caregiving, the majority of adult caregivers have trouble getting services for their loved ones like day programs or peer support, and close to half say they struggle to find treatment for substance abuse. Just as for younger children, mothers are spackling over every gap in the system, sometimes destroying themselves in the process. Sixty-two percent of parents who are caregivers for adult children say their caregiving role has made their own health worse.

I spoke to Smith about how she chose the term "difficult adult children" to refer to this population, what can be done to help caregivers and their children in the near term and why it's important for all parents to come to terms with their own ambivalence, because it is normal to have mixed feelings about our roles. The following conversation has been edited and condensed.

Jessica Grose: Tell me about the choice to use the term "difficult adult children," and what it means for the mothers in your book.

Judith Smith: As I was doing my research, one friend said, "No, no, no, you can't use that word. It's pejorative." But as I say in the book, this is how difficult is defined: It's something hard to do, it's something hard to manage, and it's something hard to understand…

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