Avoid Parental Burnout in 2020

2020年1月4日星期六

Avoid Parental Burnout in 2020

January 4, 2020

A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.

Giving birth forced Domino Kirke to confront her relationship with her mother, and with all authority figures. “We birth the way we live our lives,” she wrote in a new essay, explaining why she was inspired to become a doula after working through that trauma. She also shared questions you should be unafraid to ask of a doctor, midwife, doula or anyone else who might be in the room for the “most important moments” of your life.

Also on the site this week, Lauren McCarthy looked into whether mail-in sperm kits are actually effective and Anna Goldfarb asked experts what to say to a friend struggling with infertility. And, if you’re still recovering from hectic holidays, don’t miss our popular guide to avoiding burnout when you have little ones. The key, experts say, is to let go of perfection and build your support system. You can start with our community of readers, who shared creative and hilarious tiny victories all last year — here are 34 of our favorite hacks.

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— Jessica Grose, lead editor, NYT Parenting

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You Birth How You Live

“We don’t know what we deserve most of the time, but I’m telling you, you deserve better. Get louder, get bigger, and surround yourself with extraordinary love when choosing your birth team.”

Domino Kirke on why she became a doula.

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What’s the Deal with Mail-In Sperm Start-Ups?

Experts say these mail-in kits cannot replace in-office visits.

Find out.

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Katrien De Blauwer

When a Friend is Struggling with Infertility

Even if you have gone through infertility yourself (or know someone who has), no two situations are alike.

What to say.

Greg Kletsel

34 (Little) Ways to Win at Parenting

Potty training a dino, going out in matching shirts and more tiny victories.

Get hacks from NYT Parenting readers.

Beth Hoeckel

How to Avoid Burnout When You Have Little Ones

The burnout you feel as a parent and the burnout you feel at work are two separate phenomena with similar symptoms.

Understand the signs.

Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let’s celebrate the tiny victories.

My 1½-year-old loves wearing the hat, scarf and little gloves my mom made for her.

— Thomas Seymat, Lyon, France

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