| A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting. |
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The pandemic has inspired a lot of people to reassess their relationships, and divorce filings are on the rise. While some of that increase is from the backlog of cases that occurred when courts closed in 2020, some of it must be because spouses were trapped inside together and realized it wasn't the life they wanted forever. |
"During the pandemic, couples took the time to re-evaluate their relationships and set their minds on reprioritizing, before deciding to either stay married or get divorced," said Elizabeth Overstreet, a relationship expert in Raleigh, N.C., in an article the Times ran in September. |
I was thinking of this kind of thoughtful revaluation when I read Kimberly Harrington's essay, which is adapted from her new book, "But You Seemed So Happy." Her piece is about deciding to continue living with her ex after they separated, and then divorced. They both wanted to maximize their time with their teenagers before they left the house for college, and Kimberly found that they are better partners as friends and roommates than they were as spouses. "As our living situation continues, a curious shift has occurred: We ask about each other's days and share more now than we did before," she writes. Friendship is often considered as somehow subordinate to and less desirable than marriage in our society, Kim argues, but she feels she has the opportunity to change that perception. |
Also this week, some deeply horrifying statistics about how much the governments of other rich nations invest in child care compared to the U.S. The Norwegian government (the most generous nation tracked by New York Times reporter Claire Cain Miller's analysis) spends nearly $30,000 on child care per year for every toddler. The United States spends just $500 per year, while the average wealthy nation spends about $14,000 per year. Though we know day care is difficult to find and afford in the U.S. writ large, a new survey from WalletHub finds that Montana, Tennessee and Colorado are all tied for the most child care centers per capita. |
Finally, we are working on a photo essay about adaptive Halloween costumes. If you have made or purchased an adaptive Halloween costume for your child, and are willing to be photographed and interviewed for a story, we'd love to hear from you. Please drop us a line here. |
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After months of my toddler clawing at us, he finally listens when we tell him, "Nice hands," and softly rubs where he just clawed us. — Sarah Miller, Pendleton, Ind. |
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