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Is Date Night a Scam?

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October 12, 2019

A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.

Is Date Night a Scam?

You've probably heard the conventional advice for couples who want to stay connected after kids: "Plan a date night!" While we have nothing against date nights, our reporter, Christina Caron, asked experts for some different ways to maintain intimacy, for the long-term. We also want to hear from you. If you're married or in a relationship, what do you do to stay close to your partner, despite the stresses of parenthood? Drop us a line, and we may feature your story in an upcoming piece.

Also new to the site this week, we have our complete guide to fertility and getting pregnant; and B.A. and Nikki Williams discuss the judgment and self-doubt they've faced as a queer couple trying to conceive. Jancee Dunn, the author of "How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids," admits she didn't bond with her baby right away and found out she's not alone. And, finally, after California's largest power utility shut down this week, parents got creative to keep breast milk from spoiling. Scroll down for these stories and a Tiny Victory from the mom of a stubborn 3-year-old (a.k.a., a 3-year-old).

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Sarah Maxwell

How to Reconnect With Your Partner After Having Kids

Don't wait for the most convenient time to rebuild intimacy. You'll be waiting a long time.

7 ways to stay close

Claire Merchlinsky

NYT Parenting's Guide to Fertility and Getting Pregnant

A primer on how to conceive, what treatments are available and risk factors for infertility.

What to do

via Jancee Dunn

I Didn't Bond With My Baby Right Away

My husband fell swooningly in love. For me, it took time and patience to connect with my infant.

Sound familiar?

Aubrey Trinnaman for The New York Times

Anxiety on the Way to Motherhood

Nikki and B.A. have been trying to conceive using assisted fertility, but they've run into judgment and self-doubt along the way.

Read the couple's conversation

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Moms Band Together To Save Breast Milk

After California's largest power company shut down, parents needed ways to keep breast milk from spoiling.

How they did it

Tiny victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let's celebrate the tiny victories.

As summer drew to a close, we had a daily battle with our 3-year-old son to wear pants instead of shorts. We finally succeeded by convincing him to wear his shorts on top of his pants. This is now what he wears to day care every single day. — Kathryn Laflamme, Ottawa, Canada

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