2019年10月5日星期六

You Don’t Have to Give Until It Hurts

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OCTOBER 5, 2019

A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.

You Don't Have to Give Until It Hurts

This week, Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant told us we need to talk about "The Giving Tree." Why? Because "if you assume the story is about generosity, it's easy to learn the wrong lessons: that it's O.K. for a child to take selfishly, and that adults should give until it hurts — and keep giving until they literally have nothing left to offer." Welp. Speaking of giving all of yourself to all of the things, we published our guide to time management for new parents who go back to work.

In health news, the Food and Drug Administration found low levels of a cancer-causing chemical in samples of Zantac, so our staff reporter Christina Caron asked experts what pregnant people with heartburn should do, and Jacob E. Osterhout wrote about five childhood ailments that don't require a visit to the E.R. Plus, Lisa Abramson shared her experience with postpartum psychosis. Scroll down for links to all of these stories, drop us a line with any questions and don't miss today's Tiny Victory.

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We Need to Talk About 'The Giving Tree'

The authors Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant say the book should be used to teach kids about healthy behavior and relationships.

Here's why.

via Lisa Abramson

Giving Birth Landed Me in the Psych Ward

"Even though there were signs, I didn't see them, at least not at first."

How to recognize the signs.

Pepa Prieto Puy

Have a Baby and Still Want to Get Things Done?

Time-management expert Laura Vanderkam has a few strategies to help working parents feel less crazed.

Get the guide.

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Should Pregnant Women Avoid Zantac?

The F.D.A. has found low levels of a cancer-causing chemical in samples of the drug.

What experts say.

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5 Childhood Conditions That Don't Require A Trip to the E.R.

Even the most squeamish among us can treat them without ever leaving the house.

What to do instead.

Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let's celebrate the tiny victories.

I gave my 17-month-old a single Ritz cracker, and it kept her happy and occupied for 37 minutes. — Lauren Hancock, Atherton, CA

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